The Need for Communication in Groups

The Need for Communication in Groups

The Need for Communication in Groups All groups have the dynamic of the relationship with the mother. One does not realize it, but the unconscious need of people is to always have some connection with the time of care from the mother figure. Why; Because when we were helpless, someone “saved” us and that someone was the caretaker, the one who holds the position of mother in us.

The Need for Communication in Groups

The Need for Communication in Groups

The Need for Communication in Groups – The Family

So there is this nuclear element which is forgotten and remains as basic security and trust. Then the father and others enter the binary group. And we create complex groups. The complexity of our life depends not only on external conditions but to a large extent on our internal needs. Children develop sexual desires for others and consider themselves to have the characteristics of others.

This element creates rivalries and in combination with the personality of the parents co-shapes the personality. The aggression of children belongs to three major psychological spheres and originates from them: one is the aggression of survival, i.e. I push, shout, complain, mobilize things to live and if I go to die I become aggressive. These belong to the first year of life. The other is aggression that stems from the fact that I am getting stronger and want it to be mine. This second is anal aggression. And the third is the birth.

The Need for Communication in Groups

The Need for Communication in Groups

This comes from the unconscious desires to kill the antagonist and conquer the love object. Deprived children (first year), with authoritarian parents (who, in the second year when the child grows stronger, repress with authoritarianism the possibility of free expression) and children who sleep with their parents (so at 3-6 years old they fear that the desire to kill the competing parent and take the other as their own, they develop great phobias and tremendous aggression.

These things happen in the family, whose problems, when we have not solved them, we repeat them in all our relationships, love, companionship, professional, friendly, etc. So one cannot see the mature person to have a relationship but he lives his life seeing through the glasses of family problematic. This is the negative need that makes us have relationships. When you solve these, you are not in a relationship to solve problems but to envision and work for a world as good as possible.

The process of psychotherapy requires commitment, dedication and is addressed only to those who seriously see that they need to change their lives. If you are thinking of starting this journey, please call me at 211 71 51 801 to make an appointment and let’s see together how I can help you.

Mixalis Paterakis
Psychologist Psychotherapist
University of Indianapolis University of Middlesex
Karneadou 37, Kolonaki (next to Evangelismos)
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Tel: 211 7151 801
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