Covid-19 Impact on Emotional Life and Relationships

Covid-19 Impact on Emotional Life and Relationships : We followed the rules because we feared for our lives. We didn’t think of the other but ourselves. And when one is afraid of losing his father or his mother, he is again afraid for himself. But we are so hypocritical that we started to say that we are thinking about the other.

Covid-19 Impact on Emotional Life and Relationships

Covid-19 Impact on Emotional Life and Relationships

Aggression – Covid-19 Impact on Emotional Life and Relationships

Why for so many years, centuries, are we killing, cursing, being rude, not caring about the other? It’s a question. Why; And now we suddenly care about the lives of others? We are just afraid that we will step on it too. That the virus will find us somewhere unfortified and we will end faster. However, in the public debate and information there is a happy mood that we will change or that we have already changed or that our lives will be different from now on. Yes, we will be different. How; We will curse behind masks, be rude behind masks, kill ourselves behind masks. Does anyone really believe that the threat of the virus will change them?

Covid-19 Impact on Emotional Life and Relationships

Covid-19 Impact on Emotional Life and Relationships

Change – Covid-19 Impact on Emotional Life and Relationships

Change is a concept that cannot be grasped by man. It is a concept that requires effort to produce results. Trying to figure out who he is inside. How is he inside? Why, it is so in him. What are the feelings he really has about the world, about people, about sexuality and aggression, about relationships, about society, how he sees himself and how he thinks others see him. Ask the people who have made a serious effort of many years in a psychotherapy. You have a lot to learn from them. How is it that they have tried to stay in a therapeutic relationship for a number of years in order to understand minute by minute their every reaction that for years they could not understand. Their attempt to see who they are inside and how they came to listen better to their neighbor. We had forgotten their doctors until the day before yesterday and now we praise them. They are poorly paid for their studies and work but now we remembered them. Is this really a change? We will forget them again once the pandemic is over.

Covid-19 Impact on Emotional Life and Relationships

Covid-19 Impact on Emotional Life and Relationships

A pandemic is not the virus – Covid-19 The influence on emotional life and relationships

Pandemic is not the virus, pandemic is ourselves that we cannot understand, we cannot approach, it does not let us see even an inch away from our nose. It’s a pandemic where we can’t see others. It’s a pandemic that we can’t get close to each other. It’s a pandemic that we don’t try to learn how to relate to each other. Covid-19 has not brought us closer, nor united us, nor changed us. He just scared us that he will kill us. It’s like the plane you get in, it makes a vacuum and suddenly you feel like everyone around you is your friend. But this is not change. What is change? When you start and learn that you have murderous feelings and sexual feelings inside you that you have repressed and that define your life without realizing it.

Which enter into the relationships with your partner, with your children, with your friends. Feelings that affect you and others without knowing it. What is the influence of the virus on our emotional relationships? None. A shock that we might die a little sooner, an illusion that we care about others when we care only about ourselves, and a sense that we share something in common that when tomorrow passes with the advent of medicine or vaccine, will turn into sense of omnipotence and narcissism as it was before the virus.

Covid-19 Impact on Emotional Life and Relationships

Covid-19 Impact on Emotional Life and Relationships

The Internal Changes – Covid-19 The Influence on Emotional Life and Relationships

Internal changes are not made in these ways. We have to learn to relate to each other and this is a long-term job. It is necessary to look at people from their childhood and understand their needs but also to teach them that others also have needs and that somehow we have to open our eyes to this. That’s not how change happens. Pandemics and wars in the history of mankind abound. But nothing changed. We are just as ignorant as before. We think we know everything and can control everything. Nothing we can control. And first of all ourselves. Because we don’t know him. Because no one has ever taught us to understand the other and why no one ever bothers to understand the other.

Those who have gone through the great journey of psychotherapy and have been able to see themselves somewhat, easily understand that this supposedly emotionally difficult time did not bring about changes in anything, nor can it make us believe that we suddenly discovered to love. Because love doesn’t come by itself. Love comes with gratitude. Now suddenly we love street sweepers, doctors, ambulance drivers or those who have suffered financial loss. But when we close the road and the other person dies in the ambulance, is that okay, or when we put merciless and unfair taxes on the professionals? covid-19 is a pretext for love that has nothing to do with love. We feared for our lives. That’s all. Nobody loves. Love is the hardest thing in the world. And it’s another big debate that needs volumes, not articles. I hope that in the future we will be able to understand that real interest does not come with external but with internal changes. And internal changes need effort and relationship to be made.

That is where the states must help. Without their help nothing can be done. But you see what is happening to world leaders. Unfortunately, we go from pathology to pathology. So we will all continue our work. Some by believing that they have changed with covid-19, others by believing that there is no problem if we let it destroy our health systems, others that they suddenly learned love and others that they found an opportunity to take power into their own hands . To change we have to look inside and when we learn what is happening there then we will understand what it means to look outside as well.

The process of psychotherapy requires commitment, dedication and is addressed only to those who seriously see that they need to change their lives. If you are thinking of starting this journey, please call me at 211 71 51 801 to make an appointment and let’s see together how I can help you.

Mixalis Paterakis
Psychologist Psychotherapist
University of Indianapolis University of Middlesex
Karneadou 37, Kolonaki (next to Evangelismos)
I accept by appointment
Tel: 211 7151 801
www.psychotherapy.net.gr
www.mixalispaterakis.gr