Psychologist For Anxiety Psychotherapy

Psychologist For Anxiety Psychotherapy: If we observe the mental life of children, we will see that their self-esteem is directly related to the type of contact they have with their mother. When you have problems as a child in this relationship and do not manage to solve them in adolescence, then adult life will have difficulties and stress that will be expressed as accusations against the self. Statements like “I’m not good enough,” “desirable enough,” “sufficient enough,” etc., are signs of depression that should not be left to their own devices. Most people use various ways to cope with these symptoms. They become compulsive (they control everything), they try to ignore them (that is, they underestimate them but without success), some are constantly angry, some engage in self-destructive behaviors, some temporarily fill the void with some addiction, some get sick. Nothing makes up for low self-esteem. All of the above are just aspirins. The real cure is the therapeutic relationship with a trained psychotherapist. There we relive the relationship with ourselves (which includes the caring figure in the first year of life) and rebuild our relationship with him (with the self). Over time the problem becomes softer, and gradually ceases to matter. This is a long-term process that helps us live life more pleasantly and more meaningfully.

Psychologist For Anxiety Psychotherapy: The Communication Effort

Just as the baby cries, shouts, grunts, tries to communicate but when no figure is available, gets sick (sickness is a way of communication there), so the adult will use all the available ways of creation, art and science to express and share his inner world. But if for some reason he doesn’t have access to these roads, as a last resort, he gets sick. Respiratory and skin problems are common ways of reacting. Those with more persistent fears may even go as far as hypochondria (constantly feeling ill and constantly testing). Illness, symbolically, is an attack on the self when you cannot express the aggressive feelings in some way or you are unable to transform them into something else.

The Unconscious Self

Our selves are primarily unconscious. Nobody knows him. It is complex and made with biological materials that have an emotional impact. This structuring is hidden behind defenses which aim to prevent the impulses from escaping unchecked into behavior and consciousness. This whole complex is a problematic that man is called upon to recognize and solve. The relationships we make in life have this purpose. In relationships we see ourselves and distinguish it from the other. But because the other is also a different complex of drives, emotions and behaviors differently entangled than ours, it is therefore not possible to recognize ourselves to a significant degree. This can be done in the psychotherapeutic relationship where the therapist can stand as a mirror in front of the treated and thus show him through the mirroring, his own self. This is a shock because you see who you are. There the conditions are created to regress and bring to the surface your emotional origins. It is no coincidence that many patients as soon as they enter treatment begin to remember the dreams they see in their sleep. The basic mirror that we all use outside of therapy, which is unfortunately insufficient, is relationships in general and love.

Love Is In The Service Of Life And Defense Against Death

Any quick, sudden and abrupt love feeling leads people into problematic relationships. This is the immature choice that affects about 80% of people worldwide. This results in a huge percentage of divorces and constant fights between couples. When you are somewhat mature, you choose with more patience, you see the other, you get to know him little by little, you learn the other and let him learn you too. This takes time. But that’s how you know the real other and not the one you’d like the other to be. When someone makes an appointment to see them and insists on seeing them right away, I know it’s a bubble that will burst in the next few minutes. It came to him so quickly he was fascinated by something he saw that I have written. I know in advance what kind of relationships he has, I know he is immature, the relationship will not last. Because healing is hard like any real relationship. It takes patience that an immature person does not have. Most people tell me after a year or so that they have started to feel familiar. And this is also normal. Expected. That’s where I know the treatment is going well. It is based on good foundations. At first it’s mostly excitement. Of course there are also the most troubled ones who are motivated to work with themselves, to get to know them. Then it is of course what one is dealing with. What personal problems exist and we see them closely and with constant frequency and sensitivity. Romantic people today are the ones who are having a hard time because the times are generally not conducive to romance.

Anxiety is emotional in nature

Anxiety is not made of the stuff of reason. It is created by our inner life which we often push away from it. We don’t want to let her show us her wants and needs. We are afraid of being hurt, rejected, broken, so we put up defenses. Defenses serve this balance but they don’t last forever. Our unconscious life presses to express itself. He presses to speak, to come to the surface. So if we suppress it then it will cause symptoms. If you are deeply sad and turn it into joy, you will become depressed. The anxiety you will have will be so terrifying that it will not leave you alone for a moment. The same if you have anger that you hide because you are afraid that you will kill the other person.

In therapy where we see the therapist as the object to whom we will give these feelings, we can look for what is hidden. Let’s not put these feelings aside this time, but let’s look at them and fix them. Gradually, over time. This means that we will begin to learn our hidden selves and our relationships will become better. Anxiety will have no significant reason to form anymore.

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Mixalis Paterakis
Psychologist Psychotherapist
University Of Indianapolis University of Middlesex
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